I must say this has been the biggest challenge in my entire life. This gives me time to calm down and think about how I want to say something.
Although I do love my husband dearly, I am finding myself slipping into feelings of resentment quite often. Also, you need to give logistical reasons for things, at least I do.
Right when he gets home from work, or just before bed, would not be ideal.• Anonymous said…
"am finding myself slipping into feelings of resentment quite often" if you love him..
Women who understand what it's like to be married to someone with Aspergers - no one else can even begin to understand the challenge. She is trying to understand and reach out for help. There were some arguments that I now understand were down to mutual misunderstanding from our brains being "wired differently" .
Many of the people at the adult Asperger's support groups I go to comment that their diagnosis made their marriages to their NT partner much happier. It points out that both people in the relationship need to work at understanding the other. Or times when we both felt a little unloved or uncared for because we didn't recognise the way the other was expressing their love.
Groups used to be too public and were hard to use as a means for creating connections.
Now, people are talking more in them and are taking them more seriously, so it’s worth a shot!
Meeting people based on things you have in common is the best way to go.Once I learned to take a step back, breathe, and think of a reasonable argument in a calm, low tone, things got SO much better. I'll talk from your hubsnd's perspective, if you'll permit.Although a person with AS can tell they've angered or disappointed you, they rarely understand why.I'll assume that your husband has the normal high IQ common amongst folks with AS, and if so you can use that to your benefit to help him learn how to relate to you and "behave" in a more neuro-typical way.No one with AS wants conflict or strife, as it only serves to worsen the anxiety and depression that is so common in this disorder.This comment wouldn't bother you or even spew out your mouth or even come as a thought in your head... Everyone's wired differently and marriage is a journey, a struggle and hard work but also a fantastic experience.