I was not entirely surprised, and I was definitely not disappointed. Early in our relationship, which got super serious, super fast, I was anxious: I worried Neal would change his mind, say that he was actually truly 100 percent gay after all, and leave me for a man. A man who says he's bisexual is gay, straight, or lying.) Another part of me worried whether a bisexual guy could ever really be monogamous.Also, didn't being with a man who was interested in men women mean that I was competing against everyone in the world for his attention? Bi women are practically mainstream: Megan Fox, Lady Gaga, Anna Paquin, Jessie J, and Evan Rachel Wood, to name only a few, have all spoken openly about being bisexual. Straight women, you need to get your shit together when it comes to bisexual males. This means I am physically attracted to both men AND women. If you STILL have questions after that…you’re too stupid to leave the house and shouldn’t be dating or even talking to people!
My friends said he was an improvement over more macho guys I'd brought home in the past, and no one really made a big deal about the bi thing. "The only way to be truly sure," says Barbara Hernandez, a family and marriage therapist, "is over time.
Understanding the basic science of bisexuality helped me a lot.
Ritch Savin-Williams, professor of developmental psychology at Cornell University, who has done extensive research into arousal patterns of gay and bisexual individuals, puts it simply: "Bisexual men are attracted to both sexes.
I don’t care what you saw on Jerry Springer…actual, legitimate bisexual males are real. We are thriving quite well, thank you…and we’re looking at your tits.
So while I was attracted to him, I figured he would just be my gay best friend.